An engagement is undoubtedly one of the most exciting milestones a couple will celebrate. When thinking about this event, the image that probably springs to mind is one of pure bliss. After all, what could be better than being so in love you’re ready to spend your lives together? However, although the engagement itself may be idyllic, the course of true love never did run smooth. Ask anyone what they felt when they initially began engagement ring shopping and the answer will be the same; panic.


When it comes to engagement ring shopping, the seemingly endless options can feel overwhelming. Solitaire, halo or trilogy design? Round, pearl or oval cut? Diamond or coloured stone? The choices appear infinite, and it is unsurprising that many people are alarmed when faced with this onslaught of information. Panic leads to mistakes, and mistakes could impact your picture perfect proposal. However do not fear, because many of these mistakes are common yet easily avoidable. Read on to discover how you can evade these top 10 engagement ring mistakes.


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1. Not Doing Your Research


Proposing is a huge decision. Perhaps the biggest you’ll ever make in your life- no pressure! Such a momentous occasion deserves plenty of consideration, and some of this should focus on the ring you will be proposing with. It can be easy to allow thought of the actual proposal to sweep you away. However, don’t forget that while this will be a lovely memory, it is the ring that will stay with your partner forever. So don’t buy your ring on a whim. If you want to choose something that they’ll truly love, you need to do a bit of detective work.


Firstly, have a peek in their jewellery box. This should give you an insight into your partner’s favoured colours, styles and shapes. If all of their jewellery is yellow gold, chances are they probably won’t love a platinum ring! Similarly, if there is a trend of vintage and antique jewellery then a super chic, modern engagement ring is probably not the wisest choice.


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Also, don’t be afraid of asking those closest to your partner for their opinion. They’ll know their tastes inside and out, and may be able to offer you some insight into the sort of ring your future fiancé/e would prefer. There’s no shame in asking for help- at the end of the day, you want to pick the perfect ring!


2. Guessing Her Ring Size


Picture this: you show them the engagement ring and they are thrilled, of course it’s a yes! They slip it on their finger, ready to take that Instagram worthy photo and…it doesn’t fit. It’s squeezing too tightly, or alternatively, wobbling all over the place. Of course, rings can be resized, but a smooth proposal does get your future together off to a good start. Ideally, you can work out their ring size by measuring a ring they already wear on the ring finger. If they are pretty minimal and you have no jewellery to base this off, then it’s time to get sneaky. First, check out our guide to measuring your ring size at home. The average ring size (for a woman) is an M, so use this as a starting point. Then guess up or down the scale slightly depending on whether their hands are particularly large or small. If you’re feeling particularly brave (or foolish) then you could always try and measure their finger while they’re asleep. Although we’re not sure we could come up with an acceptable excuse for you if they woke up!


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3. Ring Shopping During Engagement Season


So you’ve done the detective work, now it’s time to shop. Well, maybe not. November to February is prime time for engagement ring shopping, and chain retailers know this. If you shop on the high street during this busy season, you risk paying a lot more than necessary. Luckily, whatever the time of year, independent retailers are able to offer you a fair price that is dependent on the quality of the piece. That being said, preparation is key no matter where you shop. It’s never too early to start browsing. Even if you plan on proposing during the romantic holiday season, leaving ample time for shopping means you will find the perfect ring at the perfect price.


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4. Not Thinking Outside the Box


One of the main stresses when engagement ring shopping is just how similar a lot of the choices seem. Once you’ve seen one overpriced contemporary solitaire ring, you’ve seen them all. Of course, engagement rings are an incredibly personal choice, and hey, certain styles are popular for a reason! However we cannot help but favour the charm and independence of antique and vintage styles. If your future fiancé/e is unique, they deserve a ring that reflects this. When they’re showing it off, they want something that will stand out from the crowd. This is why we love the character that older rings possess. Plus, you can rest assured that with centuries of history behind them already they will be as enduring as your love!


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5. Searching Endlessly for the Perfect Diamond


We can see the temptation in searching for a diamond that is as perfect as your future spouse. However, while you can’t put a price on love, you can put a price on the ‘perfect’ diamond- and that is expensive. Unless you have the budget for it, don’t spend months desperately searching for an immaculate diamond. The differences between the top grades of diamond and those below are incredibly subtle. Often, they are undetectable by the naked eye. As for carat weight, bigger doesn’t always mean better. Personal preference is the priority here. You may want to make a statement of your love with the biggest and blingiest diamond you can find, but if you partner doesn’t like this style then what’s the point?


If, however, you want to bring some bling without breaking the bank, we have a tip for you. Since the price of diamonds increases exponentially the larger they are, look for a ring with smaller stones incorporated into it to add some cost-effective shine.


antique diamond platinum ring

6. Ignoring the Cut


We know, we literally just warned you not to search for the ‘perfect’ diamond. However, whilst we don’t want you to fall victim to the ‘four C’s’, we can understand that you may still want some sparkle. If you’re looking to dazzle, then it would be a mistake to ignore the cut of the stone you choose. While ‘cut’ can refer to the shape of the diamond, it also reveals a little about how the diamond reflects light. Some diamonds do this in a way that makes them shine more brilliantly than others. If this is the effect you want, then it’s better to focus on the cut of the diamond rather than the clarity or colour. Round cut diamonds are an incredibly popular way of achieving this effect- their many facets means they have a lot of sparkle. They are very versatile and classic in their style, which accounts for their popularity; over 75% of diamond engagement rings sold are round cuts.


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7. Getting Caught Up in a Trend


An engagement ring should be a timeless, classic symbol of everlasting love. So the goal should be to find a style that’s the perfect match for your future fiancé/e. Yes, a wacky style may make a statement now, but you have to think about how it will age. By this point you should already have peeked inside your partners jewellery box, and have an idea of their preferred accessory styles. This is what you should take your inspiration from. Even the most fashion forward fiancé/e will appreciate the thought that has gone into a ring chosen to evolve with you and your relationship. Trends may pass, but your love is forever, and your ring should reflect this. This isn’t to say you can’t add some personality into the piece. Coloured stones are a great way of combining trendy and traditional, and you can even customise these further by incorporating birthstones into the piece.


vintage ruby ring

8. Forgetting to Cover Your Tracks


The element of surprise is one of the most important aspects of a proposal. As such, you don’t want your partner finding out- or finding the ring- beforehand and spoiling the most exciting moment of your life. We normally wouldn’t condone sneaking around, but in this case it is certainly acceptable. Hide receipts, browsing history, bank statements; the lot. It would be an incredible shame to have all your hard work spoilt by an avoidable error so close to the big moment!


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9. Forgetting the Wedding Band


Many people get so wrapped up in searching for the ideal engagement ring that they completely forget about another upcoming investment; the wedding band. We wouldn’t recommend purchasing this until after you have proposed, however it is worth considering while you are shopping. This is because you will need to think about the way the two rings will sit together. This is especially true if you’ve opted for a slightly unconventional stone or a setting that may sit awkwardly with a band alongside it. From here on in, forward planning is your friend!


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10. Not Getting Insurance


We know, we know. It’s not the first thing you think of when you’re considering the rest of your lives together. But while boring, insurance is very necessary when making a purchase of such magnitude. Many proposers consider the job to be done once the ring is bought and the proposal accepted, but this is not the case. This ring will hopefully be with your future spouse their whole life, so it needs protecting. We provide a complementary insurance valuation with all of our engagement rings, to make your life that little bit easier and allow you to focus on the fun stuff.


We know, we know. It’s not the first thing you think of when you’re considering the rest of your lives together. But while boring, insurance is very necessary when making a purchase of such magnitude. Many proposers consider the job to be done once the ring is bought and the proposal accepted, but this is not the case. This ring will hopefully be with your future spouse their whole life, so it needs protecting. We provide a complementary insurance valuation with all of our engagement rings, to make your life that little bit easier and allow you to focus on the fun stuff.


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Alice Wilson

After completing a degree in English Literature in 2018 Alice joined the AC Silver as a Digital Assistant. Alice is responsible for keeping our social media accounts fun and fresh for you all. In addition she will also entertain you on our blog with some creative posts.